{"id":8669,"date":"2019-08-28T23:59:32","date_gmt":"2019-08-28T21:59:32","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.aboutcherie.com\/?p=8669"},"modified":"2019-12-30T15:25:35","modified_gmt":"2019-12-30T13:25:35","slug":"a-failure","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.aboutcherie.com\/?p=8669","title":{"rendered":"A failure"},"content":{"rendered":"T<\/span>hat Wednesday evening we met at a restaurant in the mall. We ordered some steaks and at some point she started to explain. As more she talked, the more confused I was. As more she talked, I started to loose hope. In an basically uninterrupted monologue she told me the story of Giuseppe. This was the first time his name popped up, the name of character that shaped and influenced our life for next few months.<\/span><\/p>\n

On the day we met, August 15th, she said she was dumped by Giuseppe after having month long relation. She was somehow into that relation, which obviously had its own up and downs, but at that particular day, she was dumped by him in a ridiculous text message exchange. In a (un)passionate way Giuseppe let her go. So still with one foot in the door frame, the beautiful lady I met that evening on the street, was theoretically free, not taken any more. As Cherie admitted, she was just dumped and had no issue to talk with a stranger that day. However during those two weeks we started to meet, she got back to him via back channels. In his faith Giuseppe broke his leg, while visiting Italy and was very anxious to get back to the city, to ask for forgiveness and to propose to her. To my astonishment, I couldn\u2019t believe that a guy knowing a woman for a month is going to propose and bring an engagement ring! I tried to explain it to her, that this is not a fairy tale, but a flesh and bone life, and nobody brings nowadays rings after knowing somebody for few weeks and dumping her there between. She didn\u2019t listen.<\/span><\/p>\n

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“He needed me now… he has broken leg…And I already promise I will be around till he will be healed completely. <\/span>???
\n<\/span><\/em>I am cancer and this is already my nature… to be there when someone needed me even though I know people around is taking advantage of me.
\n<\/span><\/em>I dont even know how serious he was with his proposal.. or maybe he just told me that to keep me for a while bcoz he is injured <\/span>?”<\/span><\/em><\/p>\n<\/div>\n

In his words he insisted to came back with a broken leg and i her guilt she accepted to take care of him. She said that she made a promise and in her culture she has to keep that promise. I tried to divert her from that idea, telling her, that Giuseppe is only playing her for his own agenda and blurry vision of the relation. She didn\u2019t listen. <\/span><\/p>\n

I asked about myself, why those two weeks we met had no influence on her life, she said \u201cMy mind choose Giuseppe, my heart choose you. But i follow my mind\u201d<\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

With those words we separated. i went back to my own Alamo in the hotel and send her a picture of my face in tears. Tears were there all the night and following days. My hope for a relation with an extraordinary woman failed in a classic way. There is always somebody else. That evening we exchnage some more message with my conclusion, as a dedicated message to her \u201cFollow the Heart, Mind will follow the Heart and I take care of both\u201d<\/em><\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

hat Wednesday evening we met at a restaurant in the mall. We ordered some steaks and at some point she started to explain. As more she talked, the more confused I was. As more she talked, I started to loose hope. In an basically uninterrupted monologue she told me the story of Giuseppe. This was the first time his name popped up, the name of character that shaped and influenced our life for next few months. On the day we met, August 15th, she said she was dumped by Giuseppe after having month long relation. She was somehow into that relation, which obviously had its own up and downs, but at that particular day, she was dumped by him in a ridiculous text message exchange. In a (un)passionate way Giuseppe let her go. So still with one foot in the door frame, the beautiful lady I met that evening on the street, was theoretically free, not taken any more. As Cherie admitted, she was just dumped and had no issue to talk with a stranger that day. However during those two weeks we started to meet, she got back to him via back channels. In his faith Giuseppe broke his leg, while visiting Italy and was very anxious to get back to the city, to ask for forgiveness and to propose to her. To my astonishment, I couldn\u2019t believe that a guy knowing a woman for a month is going to propose and bring an engagement ring! I tried to explain it to her, that this is not a fairy tale, but a flesh and bone life, and nobody brings nowadays rings after knowing somebody for few weeks and dumping her there between. She didn\u2019t listen. In his words he insisted to came back with a broken leg and i her guilt she accepted to take care of him. She said that she made a promise and in her culture she has to keep that promise. I tried to divert her from that idea, telling her, that Giuseppe is only playing her for his own agenda and blurry vision of the relation. She didn\u2019t listen. I asked about myself, why those two weeks we met had no influence on her life, she said \u201cMy mind choose Giuseppe, my heart choose you. But i follow my mind\u201d With those words we separated. i went back to my own Alamo in the hotel and send her a picture of my face in tears. Tears were there all the night and following days. My hope for a relation with an extraordinary woman failed in a classic way. There is always somebody else. That evening we exchnage some more message with my conclusion, as a dedicated message to her \u201cFollow the Heart, Mind will follow the Heart and I take care of both\u201d<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[93,91,2],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-8669","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-cheriecomment","category-stepbackwards","category-blog"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.aboutcherie.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/8669","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.aboutcherie.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.aboutcherie.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.aboutcherie.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.aboutcherie.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=8669"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/www.aboutcherie.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/8669\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":8731,"href":"https:\/\/www.aboutcherie.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/8669\/revisions\/8731"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.aboutcherie.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=8669"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.aboutcherie.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=8669"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.aboutcherie.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=8669"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}